Divorce

You can fall out of love, but can you fall back into it? Many people think that the reason others get divorced is because they no longer love each other, and that is why we have so many in our day. Up to 50% right? Wrong. The reality is that 75% of everyone who gets married stays married. Some of the reasons however that people get divorced are these:

• Low socioeconomic status
• low income
• Cohabitated before-more like tying a bow than a knot. The latter is harder to undo. 
• Divorced once before
• Parents were divorced

There are six stations of divorce. Emotional Divorce: When a couple no longer feels emotionally attached to the other, they separate. Legal Divorce: A couple meets with the court and legally decides to end the marriage. Economic Divorce: Both parties get equal amount of econmic support. Cooparental Divorce: When both parents get rights to the children. Community Divorce: When the couple's divorce is known by their community, and sides are chosen, and Physic Divorce.

After about 2 years, there are three different things that happen to 70% of divorced people: They regret that it happened, men tend to remarry faster than women, and then 5 years after both parties have adjusted and gotten through it.

Effects of Divorce on Children
There are many negative effects that divorce has on children. These include:

• They have to choose between parents.
• Tend to a mediator between parents.
• They're school work falters.
• They try harder to please their parents.
• They receive a loss of resources-or loss of access to one of their parents.
• Sometimes parentification can occur-When a parent uses an older child as a confidant.
• Children sometimes blame themselves for divorce.
• 60% of children live with people other than their parents.
• Boys have more problems generally because they spend more time with mom rather than their dad.

Sometimes divorce is necessary. But for those who are able to work through it, I encourage you to do so.